A flash of white catches the corner of your eye, but it is the weakened, burbled cry that really focuses your attention.
You realize she is no longer splashing around happily, but flailing in a panic, clutching at the surface of the water as though it could buoy her.
But it won’t.
Her head vanishes. Again.
Here’s what happens:
You surge out of the chaise, take two leaping steps, and are at her side in the water.
You throw one arm across her chest and plow the other through the roiling wet until your feet touch tile.
It’s going to be okay.
DID YOU NOTICE WHAT DID NOT HAPPEN?
At no point did you worry about looking fat in your wet clothes.
At no point did that incessant voice of self-doubt object that the water would plaster that shirt to you, revealing all your insecurities.
Because at no point were you thinking about yourself.
Why am I telling you this?
Everyone will tell you that confidence is key. Paramount. Indispensable. Fundamental.
I know you know this. You’ve heard it, you believe it, you bought the tee shirt.
Just one problem here.
HOW DO YOU BECOME CONFIDENT?
How do you shut off that nagging voice of insecurity that tells you that you aren’t good enough or smart enough? Or young enough or old enough? Or any of the stupid shit it’s always on about?
I’m so glad you asked.
It’s not by choosing to be confident.
It’s not by thinking positive thoughts, by deciding to believe in yourself, or by “attracting” confidence. (Am I more bewitching as a blond or a brunette, confidence???)
It’s not by fixating on yourself.
It’s by concentrating on others.
Get yourself in front of people in need, listen to them, and hear their cries for help.
When you realize that you, yes, you, have the solution to their problems, that you know the trick, the technique, the tools to get them what they want, you won’t hear that voice of self-doubt.
You’re just going to dive right in and rescue them.
Because here is the thing: you know more than you think you do.
You devalue what you know and what you can do. You need that interaction with others to show you just what you are capable of.
Every time you do this, you are going to prove to yourself that you do, in fact, have valuable knowledge and skills. That you can be proud of. That you can be confident in.
And, the more times you prove this to yourself, the more your confidence is going to grow.
Until, every time that voice of self-doubt starts theorizing about your deficiencies, it’s going to be wrestled to the ground by the reality that you have, in fact, proven your worth over and over again.
YOUR CONFIDENCE IS GOING TO KICK INSECURITY’S ASS.
Just like Indy dropping that scimitar wielding swordsman with one shot.
Just like Mal kicking Niska’s enforcer into Serenity’s engine.
Until that voice just shuts the hell up.
So where can you get in front of people who need what you’ve got?
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When someone asks a question and you realize that you alone know the answer, you’re going to feel that confidence begin to take root.
When you recognize that you do have mad tricks and tools and techniques, it’s going to grow.
And when you finally appreciate that, holy shit, you are impressive and worthy, it’s going to expand until it fills you up, leaving no room for that voice of doubt.
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That’s right, it’s FREE.
Because I know what this can do for you. And I want you there.
Stop beating up on yourself for your insecurities.
Stop wishing you could just will your way into confidence.
And stop letting self-doubt hold you back from all that you could be.
Imagine this: insecure to unstoppable.
THAT COULD BE YOU.